These Daily Habits Are Killing Your Confidence

DWELL ON THE PAST

A confident person tends to keep their eye on what’s next. They can learn from mistakes and celebrate victories, but don’t dedicate a lot of their life to reflecting on what happened yesterday or years ago. Likewise, letting previous experiences dictate new decisions can end up debilitating you.

“When considering something new, people spend a large chunk of their time going over how things went for them when they tried to make positive changes in the past,” says Ruth Kent, the director of Sunrise Well, a mindful wellness center.

“They can spend so much time feeling a sense of failure, self-blame, or regret for what might have been, ‘if only I’d done this my life would be so much better.’”She adds that rather than seeing this as a fresh opportunity to change their lifestyle, the average person will get stuck in a pattern of thinking based on a past failure, and often don’t even begin to try this new thing.